There is no point to contradict the fact that India is a land of diverse culture. With so many cultures and traditions, every household follows a certain way of getting married. We Indians take the wedding ceremonies very seriously; it includes a month of non-stop functions and rituals. An Indian Wedding is a sneak peek to our country’s rich and diversified culture. There are absolutely crazy yet beautiful things that one can witness in an Indian wedding! Like a Bihari, bride carries earthen pots on her head or in Tamilian Brahmin wedding the groom has to be stopped from running away! Did you know that Malayali weddings only have 3 pheras! That’s the variation one would witness if he/she was to attend an Indian wedding.
Kayastha wedding, on the other hand, is full of life and enthusiasm. The community generally belongs to states like Delhi, Uttar Pradesh, and Madhya Pradesh. Here the family of the bride and groom fix the wedding on an auspicious date which is calculated according to the birth chart of the bride and groom. The Kayastha wedding rituals are a bit different, so to find out more, read ahead!
Lagan Ceremony :
The Kayastha wedding rituals begin with the lagan ceremony. The invitation for the same is sent out by the family of the bride and groom. It is called the lagan Patrika which is accompanied by a silver covered coconut, gold covered barley and betel nuts. Also, the bride’s family sends clothes and gift items to the groom’s family to mark the beginning of a lifelong relationship.
Fixing Marriage Date :
Once the family of the groom and the bride are over with the lagan ceremony, it is time to fix the marriage date. All the male members of the family from both sides come together and consult an astrologer to choose an auspicious date for the wedding. Once the date is finalized, the invitation cards are prepared and ready to be sent.
Bhat Nyota :
This is a very interesting concept of Kayastha wedding. This ceremony is performed one or two days prior to the wedding ceremony. Here the mother of the bride and groom visits her maternal family and invites them to bless the couple on their marriage date. Afterwards, the invitation cards are sent to relatives and friends of both the families.
Haldi Kutai :
This ritual is performed by the ladies of the groom’s family. Women dress up wearing chunri and Nath for preparation of a very fine powder of turmeric. Folk songs and various wedding songs are sung by the ladies during this ritual. The powder is then sent to the bride’s home for the haldi ceremony.
Tilak Ceremony :
This ritual in a Kayastha Shaadi signifies that the bride’s family have officially accepted the groom to wed their daughter. All the male members of the bride’s family along with her brother visit the groom’s place. The groom and his family are showered with various gifts of silverware, jewelry, clothes for everyone, sweets and dry fruits. The bride’s family also present the wedding dress for the groom on tilak ceremony.
Mehandi Ceremony :
This is one of the most common ceremonies that have been witnessed in almost every Indian wedding. The Mehandi ceremony involves the application of mehndi on the bride’s hand and feet, which includes the groom’s name. The women of the bride’s family sing various folk songs and apply mehndi on their hands as well. A similar ritual is followed by the groom’s family where the groom also applies a little amount of Mehandi on his hands as a shagun.
This is performed by the male members of the groom’s family on the wedding day. A mandap is created in the groom’s house by five married male members. The roof is constructed using hey on the support of four bamboo sticks. The center of the mandap has a havan kundali that has harish made out of woods. The mandap is beautified using mango leaves and banana stumps. All remaining rituals for the wedding are held in this mandap.
Haldi Ceremony :
The family of the groom wears yellow colored clothes for the Haldi Ceremony. The haldi paste is brought by the mother of the bride which is applied on the groom’s face, hand, and legs. This ritual is performed by all married women of the house. A similar ceremony is performed at the bride’s place where the haldi is sent by the groom’s family. The application of Haldi is said to bring the wedding glow and keep infections and negative aura away from the bride and the groom.
Imli ghutnab :
This ceremony is done in a Kayastha Shaadi to keep the bad omens away. The ritual is performed by the groom’s maternal aunt and uncle who pray to keep all the negativity away from the groom.
The mother of the groom performs this ritual to keep bad omen and negativity away from the groom and the newlywed couple. It is said that the groom should enter his next phase in life with positivity so the mother does the aarti of the groom and applies tilak on his forehead to bless him. In older times, the mother used to find a nearby well to jump in because she thinks now her son will forget her since he is getting married. The groom assures her that nothing of this sort will happen and he gifts his mother jewelry set to assure that her position in his life remains the same. Then the groom joins his wedding party.
The groom’s immediate family is called the Barat which begins its journey to the bride’s place. They first visit a temple and seek the blessing of the Almighty. All the members including the women and children visit the temple to pray for the newlywed and to keep bad omen away. The Barat then marches towards the bride’s place with lots of dance and music along the way.
Every Indian wedding has its own set of rituals which are fun-filled and bonds the family in some way or the other.
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