Kayastha community belongs to the Vaishya Samaj according to Hinduism. People belonging to the Kayastha community are mostly settled in the states of Madhya Pradesh, Uttar Pradesh, and Delhi. Like every other community in India, Kayastha community also does its wedding rituals in their own unique way. You will find the wedding rituals to be full of enthusiasm and life. They have firm believe in their rituals and still follow their rituals.
Lagan Ceremony :
For Kayasths, wedding ceremoniescommence with the Lagan ceremony. A formal invitation is sent in way of a lagan Patrika by the family of the groom and the bride which is covered with a silver coconut, barley, and betel nuts. Other than this, the family of the bride gifts clothes to the groom and his family members along with other items like sweets, fruits, and dry fruits. Other important items are also sent which the family wants to present as a gift to the groom’s family as a ritual. A Ganesh Puja is performed after which the gifts are handed over to the groom and family.
The bride and groom exchange rings as a token of love for their upcoming marriage. Only close friends and relatives are invited to take part in the occasion. Usually, the function takes place at night and the guests have dinner before leaving. A lot of dancing and singing takes place in this function.
Fixing the marriage date :
After the Lagan ceremony is successful, elder male members from both the families sit together in order to finalize a date. A priest is called in order to help finalize a good date. The list of the guests if decided by the time is exchanged by the families.
Bhat nyotna is the ceremony which actually commences the wedding rituals in the Kayastha family. Bhat Nyotna ceremony usually takes place one or two days prior to the marriage ceremony. The mother of the bride visits the groom’s place in order to invite his family member to the marriage so that they can come and bless the couple-to-be. The same is done from the groom’s side. After both the families have exchanged invitations among themselves, cards for inviting other relatives and members are disturbed.
This is a very important part of Kayastha marriage rituals. The groom’s mother and other ladies of the family together perform this ritual. The ladies together with the groom’s mother perform this ceremony. To perform the rituals, they put on a chunri, Tika and Nath. A refined powder is prepared from turmeric and folk songs are sung by the ladies. The haldi then prepared is dispatched to the bride’s family in order to be used as ‘ubtan’.
Tilak Ceremony :
Only the male members of the bride’s family participate in this function. The brother of the bride and other males of the family go to the groom’s house with all the gifts they want to present. While the relatives are presented with clothes, the groom is presented with clothes as well as jewelry of gold and silver. Dry fruits, sweets, fruits, and silverware are also presented. This Kayastha marriage ritual shows the acceptance of the groom by the bride’s family. A puja is performed by the priest after which all the gifts are handed over to the groom’s family.
Mehendi ceremony :
This is a fun to be a ritual. Mehendi is ceremony specifically organized by the ladies. The bride and all the other ladies of the family apply mehndi on their palms and foot. Generally, an expert is called upon in order to apply Mehendi. The same function takes place in the groom’s family. The Mehendi applied is considered as shagun.
A mandap is set up on the day of the wedding. A hey roof is set up with the help of four bamboo posts. Banana and mango leaves are used as ornaments to decorate it. The harish is made up of wood and is established in the center of the mandap by five elder male married members of the family. In the mandap, all the other rituals take place.
Haldi ceremony :
All the people in their respective houses wear a yellow colored attire. The bride’s mother brings haldi that is applied on the groom’s body. The same ceremony takes place at the bride’ place. It is believed that it brings glow on the body of the bride and groom.
Just before the departure of the Barat, the mother of the groom performs this ritual. The mother of the groom applies tilak on the forehead of her son in the belief that it will ward away all the bad omens and bring good luck.
Barat procession :
The Barat starts off with visiting the nearby temple. All the close relatives take part in this and after it is done, all the people start the procession for the wedding venue.
Welcoming the Barat :
The baratis come to the wedding venue dancing. They are welcomed by the bride’s family members. They greet them on the door and then a dwaar puja takes place.
After all the guest has had their dinner, only the close relatives stay back to witness the actual wedding. The wedding takes place as two priests proceed with the pooja. It usually takes the whole night to complete the wedding ritual.
It is a part of the Kayastha Marriage ceremony and is performed by the maternal aunt and uncle of the groom. This ceremony is conducted with the belief that it will remove the bad omenand bring good luck.
Finally in the morning, after all the rituals have been performed, the bride is sent to the groom’s place.
The food in a Kayastha marriage is the highlight. They are foodie people who love to have variety as well as quality in their food. Hope this article will guide you well and enlighten you about the Kayastha marriage
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