Marriages are made in heaven but nurtured on earth. It is not only a relation between two people but between two families. Not only the girl but also the boy has to take care of all the relations which they get while tying a knot.
New relations are delicate and should be handled with utmost love, care and affection. Every single relation requires it. Whether it is a relation with your mother-in-law, father-in-lawor your sister/brother-in-law. The relation with your brother or sister-in-law requires more nurturing and bonding, reason being the less age difference but yes, they cannot be ignored too.
Brother-Sister bond is the most delicate bond, where a brother has always made her sister feel comfortable and has fulfilled all her wishes. No matter how much they fight but a brother can never see tears in his sister’s eyes. As much as excited he is to see his sister getting married, he is worried too at the same time. And it’s only the would be groom who can ease his brother-in-law’s worry and assure him that he will take care of his sister in the same way her brother has been doing from so long.
So, let’s read out few of the points to be kept in mind while maintain and building relation with your brother-in-law as a wife’s husband:
Keep yourself in their shoes –
You might be thinking from your point of view but before jumping on to any conclusion, wear their shoes first. Your brother-in-law is excited and worried for his sister’s new life. He might behave little more possessive or you might feel he being interfering but hold on. Think from his point of view and try to make him believe that you will take care of his sister.
Be who you are –Yes, don’t try to be someone who you are not. Because that personality will fade out in sometime. Be the real you. It will make your life easier down the line. Make them accept you the way you are and trust you.
Develop a friend zone –No relation is as open as a relation of friends. Irrespective what is the age of your brother-in-law, treat him as a friend, build a zone of friendship, an openness, where both of you can speak out your fears and share your feelings. Love him genuinely, involve him in your life and see the magic.
Take a step further yourself –No doubt you are a groom and this society has a mind set of “Hum Ladkewale hai, hum kyu karein?” If you also believe in this, then boss it’s time to change your mentality because time has changed. Take a step further, invite your brother-in-law over a match, dinner or on a boy’s evening. Don’t wait for him to always do this for you. This will help him trust you more and build a stronger relation.
Remember marriage is a package deal. Always put your heart in it for a beautiful and successful marriage. Love your in-laws as much as you love your spouse no matter what.
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