Indian weddings are known for their traditional values. It is the apt touch of modernity to the year’s long customs.If you are the soon-to-be-groom or the soon-to-be-bride, this will be one wonderful introduction, to the days to come:
Pre-wedding rituals :
Adan Pradan :
During this ritual the family of both the soon-to-be-couple meet at a place. They fix the date of the wedding, with the help of the priest. In some families this tradition still continues, in others, the date is decided on the phone.
Aashirvad implies giving blessings. During this ritual, the soon-to-be-in-laws bless the bride and the groom. It is this ritual wherein husked rice and trefoil leaves are put on the head of the bride and the groom. They are presented with gold ornaments and other gifts as well. These act as a symbol of love.
Ai Budo Bhaat :
This is similar to the bachelor or the bachelorette party. It is a fun-filled event, wherein the bride and the groom are offered the best of Bengali delicacies. The guests, which are close family members, sing, and dance and make merry to enjoy the onset of the wedding.
Dodhi Mangal :
The dawn of the marriage day witnesses this particular ritual. The family members of both the families move in a procession. They make sure to reach a nearby water body. Here they fill a pot with water and return. It is this water, which is utilized for snan or bath.The soon-to-be-couple is then given curd, rice flakes, sweets and banana to eat in their homes.Do make sure to eat it well, since after this your fasting starts till the wedding.
Nandi Mukh :
This ritual is performed in the respective homes of the bride and the groom. A priest chants mantras and the family pays homage to their ancestors. It is a beautiful way to seek the blessings of the forefathers before the onset of the wedding.
Both the families send gifts to each other on the morning of the wedding. The tattva has immense significance. For the bride, it includes a new saree, which she needs to wear during gae holud. It also contains turmeric paste for the bride which has already been applied to the groom.
Gae holud :
This is very much like the haldi ceremony. Turmeric paste is first applied to the groom. Then, the same paste is applied to the bride, which has already been sent in the Tattva.
The water which has been brought from a nearby water body is used for snan, post-Gae holud.
Sankha and Pola :
The soon-to-be-bride is required to wear conch shell bangles, which are red and white in color. These bangles are of immense significance for saubhagya.
Wedding Rituals :
Bor Jatri and Bor Baran :
The lagna is the auspicious time slot during which the wedding takes place. The wedding procession leaves the home of the groom along with him. When they reach the wedding venue, the mother of the bride puts tilak on the groom’s forehead, from the baran dala and does aarti.
Potto Bostro :
The groom is made to sit near the mandap on chchadnatal. Then, the maternal uncle of the bride does Kanya sampradan. During this ritual, the groom is gifted new clothes which he is required to wear during the rituals. The clothes are known as potto bostro.
Saat Paak and Subho Drishti- :
The bride is made to sit on a wooden stall called pidi before going to the mandap. Her brothers and close relatives lift the pidi and carry her around the groom already sitting in front of the wedding pyre seven times. And during this entire period, the bride covers her eyes with a pair of betel leaves. When the saat paak completes the bride removes the betel leaves. This is followed by the bride looking at the groom, also known as Subho Drishti and women of the house blowing the counch shells.
Mala Badal :
The bride and the groom exchange flower garland.
An elderly member of the family of the bride’s hand over the bride to the groom. Their hands are tied with the help of a sacred thread. Their hands are bound till the completion of the rituals.
Yagya and Saat Paak :
In all Hindu marriages, Agni Devta or the God of fire is considered immensely auspicious. Hence, the Vedic chanting and rituals always need the presence of fire. The mandapa has a pyre with a fire lit in the middle. The couple is required to go around it 7 times. But, before this, the uttariya worn by the groom and the end of the saree of the bride is tied in a knot. This knot tying is called gathbandhan. The seven rounds taken is known as Saat Paak.
The bride is required to stand in front of the fire with chaff in her hand. The groom stands behind her, holding her hand. The Khoi is put on the chaff and with the help of winnowing the Khoi is thrown into the fire.
Sindoor Daan and Ghomta :
During this ritual, the groom puts vermilion on the forehead of the bride and with a veil covers her head. This is it, congratulations; you are married couple post this ritual!
Post-Wedding Rituals :
Basan Ghar :
On the night of the wedding the couple and the young members of the family sing, dance and try to loosen up. It is the time of merriment and enjoyment post-wedding.
Bashi biye :
During this ritual the priest performs prayers in the morning after the wedding.
Bidaay and Bodhu Baran :
During Bidaay the bride leaves her family home with a heavy heart. When the couple reaches their home, the mother of the groom ushers the bride. It is known as bodhu baran.
This is the first night spent by the bride at her in law’s home. However, the bride and the groom are required to sleep in separate rooms, to avert any evil eye.
Bou bhaat :
During this ritual, the elders of the family are served food cooked by the bride.Have a beautiful wedding embellished with love and happiness.
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