Practically everyone dreams of getting married to someone someday. A woman or man both would want to settle down with their perfect partners. Sometimes, if the cards are lucky they marry the person they love otherwise a meeting is arranged for the two. The pre-wedding preparations and functions are crazy and filled with happiness and laughter. Only later the realization comes that the bride has to leave her home and start a new family. This comes out as a painful event, but that’s what the vidai ceremony is all about. This ritual is performed once the wedding is completed. Vidai in north Indian weddings are also called Doli and in south Indian weddings, it is called Kshemadandulu.
During the time of Kings and kingdoms, brides were given away to kings of far-off lands as a gift or surrender or to surrender their throne. Sometimes it was to make a treaty between two kingdoms. From here the Vidai ceremony started.
Vidai Ceremony in India :
1. In India, women are considered to be a manifestation of Goddess Lakshmi, the Goddess of wealth and prosperity. The bride during her vidai throws three handfuls of rice and coins to keep the wealth and health of her parents intact. The bride is accompanied by her parents are relatives till the doorstep and then the father takes her to the groom’s car.
2. The parents are thrilled for their daughter who is about to start her new journey but also realize that it is time to say goodbye to her. The emotions are mixed and can be also understood by someone who got her daughter married.
3. The rice and coins apart from symbolizing health and wealth for her parents also symbolize that the daughter has repaid her parents for her upbringing and everything that they have done for her. The father then gives his daughters hand to her husband and asks him to take care of her daughter. He asks his son in law to be her strength in this journey and that she never gets a chance of missing her parents. The groom seeks to bless from his parents and starts for his home.
4. A light moment comes when the groom has to gift something to the bride’s sister in order to get his shoes back. The bride’s sister demands a lump sum amount. Finally, after lots of negotiations, the sister in laws settles for an amount and finally, the bride starts her new journey. Coins are thrown when the car starts to keep any evil eye away from the newlywed.
5. The brothers and sisters from the bride’s family give a little push to the car to signify that they have given a push to their sister to start her journey. The bride is accompanied by her brother at the groom’s place for moral support so that she doesn’t feel alone in her new home.The ceremony is a mix of bitter and sweet memory for the parents of the bride.
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