Muslim weddings are considered as most traditional wedding even in today’s generation where the modernization is ruling and dominating all communities and religions. Muslim weddings are very near to reality and practicality.
The very important point in Muslim marriages is that the family and the bride can decide how much and where to spend money in weeding. No mandatory rules that must call so many people for marriage ceremony on Muslims. This can also happen with only two witnesses, bride and groom family and a simple reception which is called as Valimah. The dowry paid is called as Mahr which is mandatory but nothing is mandatory anything that groom family can afford is fine.
Few modern trends of engagements, rings exchange etc. have come into picture in today’s world however none of them are mandatory.
To list down point wise as what all steps are involved in Muslim wedding is as:
Marriage proposal:As like any other community, prospective bride and groom details will be shared across community heads. After this groom’s parents visit the bride’s family to see their house and girl. There will be one session of Quran first chapter recitation after that few eatables and refreshments are served.
Engagement:Once we have families finalizing, they organize an informal engagement function with immediate family members at the bride’s house. There will be one traditional prayer session followed by lunch for family members.
Dholki:This is where the families come with dollies which are related to marriage house and there will be a night spent of all ladies gathering singing and dancing. Dholki is name of drum that is played in these kinds of functions and allowing women to dance and celebrate.
Mehndi:This is the event performed along with Dholki where the bride-to-be is being decorated with henna for palms and feet. The groom family offers henna and sweets to the bride and they will also join in the celebrations along with bride’s family. They sing, dance and celebrate the whole night together.
Barat:This is common in even another religion marriages also, however, in Muslim weddings this is considered as mandatory and the possession carrying groom along with his relatives and friends will be brought till marriage function hall or the bride house where the marriage is celebrated. Generally, horses were used to carry groom, but these days it is also observed that trendy and costly cars are used for barat.
Nikah:The actual wedding ceremony is called Nikah that is done before the Muslim Cleric or Imam who is the spiritual organizer of this event. This can happen in marriage hall or at bride’s home also depends on convenience and financial position and few families prefer doing this in mosques also. There will two separate areas allocated for men and women to sit. The imam will take two witnesses from the bride side and ask them to go to women sitting area and take the acceptance on documents signature by the bride and come. Earlier it was Imam used to go along with them and if a girl says fine then was accepted but now a day they are preferring signature on document. After that Imam will conduct Nikah with short sermon which is called as Khutbah followed by seeking permission from bride’s father or guardian who is known as Wali that he is accepting to fulfil Mahr needs and will be able to provide it to groom now. There is no mandatory that it must be in cash it can be anything based on understanding of both families which not required to be compulsory. Once he accepts is considered they will have prayers performed called as duas and, commonly it goes like ‘barak Allahu lakum wa barak ‘aleikum wa jama’ bainakuma fi khair’ which means “May Allah bless you, surround you with blessings, and bring you both together in virtue and prosperity” and after this marriage is completed and this will be followed by a light dinner for near and dear family members.
Registration:This has become mandatory in the recent past to avoid unnecessary complications where the marriage gets registered and the proper documentation will be done as proof of declaring man and woman as wife and husband. However, in Islam it is not mandatory to change the women surname and it is purely her decision to change or to keep it.
Valima:This is a grand function post marriage, which is in other words reception where all the relatives, friends and well-wishers are called. They will grace the occasion and bless the couple. And one more specialty of this event is the bride and groom families will share the expenses equally between them so that it is function organized for all.
Rukhsti:The girl being sent to the husband’s house in Islam is called as Rukhsti where the bride’s family including father, brothers and uncles escort the girl till the groom’s car, which in other ways an emotional event too as farewell is given with lots of weight of sending a girl to husband’s house.
Honeymoon:Lastly, this was not in previous days, however, as part of modern, trend people have come up with including this also into the marriage list. This is mostly planned between the newlywed couple wherein they decide where to go and expenses all that. However, it is not mandatory that bride family must afford all the expenses so scenarios are there where the expenses are equally shared by both at times but again ultimately depends on understanding of each other.
There are so many unique features of Muslim weddings including the expenses of marriage where it gets shared between both families unlike in other religions. No mandatory lavish expenses required and not required to have so many people attending Nikah. The reception also will be planned as per convenience of both families. Unlike other religion marriages the lavish and rich aspects are not mandatory for Muslim marriages and the religious aspect plays a very predominant role.
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